Have you ever felt like you were your own worst enemy, standing in the way of your own success and happiness? In this episode, Dr. Tamika Sanders and Cheyennis Doom uncover the common ways we sabotage ourselves, whether it’s through negative self-talk, perfectionism, or clinging to comfort zones.

Join us on this journey of self-discovery and balance as we:

• Check In with Ourselves with Thoughtful Questions for Reflection
• Define What We Mean by Getting Out of Your Way
• Discuss Signs of Self Sabotage and What it Looks Like
• Steps for Getting Our of Your Way
• Understanding What’s at Stake if You Don’t
• Give Best Practices for a Thrive Mentality
• Share tangible resources for continued growth

You can watch the episode on YouTube!

Have you ever wondered why your best efforts sometimes seem to go up in smoke? You plan meticulously, you work hard, but just when success seems within reach, something—often yourself—brings it all crashing down. Understanding self-sabotage requires delving deep into our psyche. Often, our actions stem from internal feelings of unworthiness, past traumas, or deeply ingrained fears. This is more than a passing phase of self-doubt; it’s a pattern of behavior that can permeate every aspect of our lives. We hesitate, second-guess, and ultimately undermine ourselves because, for reasons often unknown to us, we feel more comfortable in failure than in the uncertainty of success.

Questions to Ponder

1. Do You struggle with lack of motivation when faced with important tasks?
2. Do You Doubt Your ability to achieve your goals?

These are questions we all must ask ourselves as we tap into our positive intelligence, to better recognize that we may be getting in our own way. And often times, it happens because we are afraid of success or afraid of failure.

What to Look For

Imagine running on a treadmill—you’re putting in the effort, breaking a sweat, but finding yourself not moving forward an inch. Self-sabotage works much the same way. It manifests in various behaviors, often subtle, that keep us tethered to the same spot despite all our drive.

Consequences of Self Sabotage:

But what happens when we engage in self-sabotage, when our actions and beliefs become obstacles? The consequences are twofold: potential and progress are hindered, leading to regression. Reflecting on missed opportunities can be painful, but it’s a necessary step in understanding the cost of self-limitation and the importance of fostering self-awareness and positive growth.

Tips for Getting Out of Your Way

1. Just Do It: Take action even if you’re scared.
2. Remember Your Why: Keep your goals and motivations in mind.
3. Hold Yourself Accountable: Stick to your deadlines and promises.
4. Engage in Self-Care: Take breaks and prioritize your well-being.
5. Acknowledge Your Strengths: Recognize and use your unique gifts.
6. Confront Negative Self-Talk: Replace negative thoughts with positive ones.
7. Remove Unnecessary Pressure: Focus on what truly matters.
8. Set Proper Expectations: Be clear about what you can and cannot do.
9. Change Your Mindset: Adopt a growth mindset and see challenges as opportunities.

The Path to Overcoming Self-Sabotage:

The path to overcoming self-sabotage lies in recognizing and confronting the behaviors that hold us back. It’s about stepping out of the shadows of self-doubt and allowing yourself to experience the power of self-belief. With each move towards self-awareness and positive action, you’re weaving resilience and confidence into the fabric of your being.

Embracing the Journey Ahead

Life is full of beautiful adventures, but you must get out of your own way to experience them. Join us next time as we explore knowing yourself and knowing what you want. We’ll dive into understanding your worth and asking for what you deserve. Remember, closed mouths don’t get fed! Until then, remember to connect with us on social media, share your stories, and let us know how you’re embracing change and discomfort in your own life.